As a minister, you are likely to be called upon to give counsel and assist in a variety of emotional and spiritual situations. For older adults, one of the most difficult situations they might encounter is the transition from independent to assisted living. The older adult may experience a range of emotional responses from anger and resentment to sadness, depression, and anxiety. You may be called upon to help. Below is an article about how to help others ease the anxiety of making big changes. There are also other training discourses listed underneath this text.
Marriage Laws: In this section, there is a video that describes all the laws in the various states about which ones require a letter of good standing and credential and which don't. There's also a list, so you'll know the legalities of performing a wedding in the various states.
The Marriage Ceremony: In here, I'd like to talk with you about being a wedding minister. How do you set yourself up? What do you do at a consultation? What do you wear? What happens during the processional? All of these things are covered, along with a lot more, like processional examples, which is a common question from couples.
The Funeral: Many ministers are intimidated when it comes to funerals. This article will help take out the mystery and let your confidence shine through. You'll learn a lot about funerals and how to conduct them in a professional manner.
Wiccan Training Pages: This section has a number of different articles written about Wicca. If you've ever been curious about it or it strikes a chord in you and you want to learn more, this is the place to look. Compliments of Lord Starwalker, among others.
Starting Your Own Church: If you are interested in starting your own church, please review these pages and feel free to use the samples to help you in your own quest to start a new church. There are samples of different things you need to file with the state or IRS.
Possession and Demons: This section was written by one of our ULC ministers to share some of his insight on Possession and Demons. There are those who disagree with this concept entirely and those who believe in it whole-heartedly. This is one person's interpretation of the concept.
Coping with Transition Anxiety: If you are asked to help someone make a transition from living independently, to moving to assisted care living, then this article may help address some concerns that will arise. This material can easily overlap into other areas where the information still applies.
10 Commandments: This is a short discourse about the varieties of the 10 commandments that have been debated between the various religions for centuries. It's interesting to understand the differences in the various 10 commandments and it's good for our ministers to have a firm grasp of the different religions.
Being A Minister: This is an insteresting talk about what it means to be a ULC Minister. It's a great way to look at how we deal with other people, what we can do for our communities and how we can best serve ourselves and the other people we come across.
Seven Questions About Being A Minister: To be a minister, consider these seven major questions about what you're doing with your ministry and why you're doing it. This essay may help you focus your ministry needs and goals.
Coping with Transition Anxiety
Typically, well-meaning family members, wanting the best for
their loved one (and sometimes, trying to reduce their own feelings
of guilt), offer reassurances, pointing out all the positive
aspects of making the move to a new home.
While such responses are understandable, they are not always
the best strategy. As a ULC minister, you may be asked to come in and help ease this transition anxiety. The elderly person is apt to feel misunderstood;
after all, he or she is grieving the loss of independence and
may perceive this as the beginning of the end. It’s important
that you be aware of this.
A better way to deal with this might be to acknowledge the feelings
straight out. “Mom, you seem angry about this; tell me
what you're thinking." Or "Dad, you seem really stressed
about the move, what's your worry?" You can take the role
of being the facilitator between the older parent and the adult
child, opening lines of communication, OR you discuss with the
adult child the possible needs of the parent making the transition
and make suggestions for how their fears can be helped.
Acknowledging the person's feeling and giving them the opportunity
to voice their concerns could help address misconceptions about
the new environment and help pave the way for a smoother transition.
If you have been asked to do a funeral service and are in need of some non-denominational healing words to share, please go the shopping cart and look under 'general ministry needs'. We offer there a complete selection of funeral ceremonies that can be emailed to you right away.
I would suggest the saying the Lord's Prayer, which supremely fits all occasions, or the 23 Psalm, written below:
The Lord is my Shepherd:
I shall not want.
He makes me to lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside the still waters.
He restores my soul;
He leads me in the paths of righteousness
For His name's sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil;
For You are with me;
Your rod and Your staff,
they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
You anoint my head with oil;
My cup runs over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall
All the days of my life;
And I will dwell in the house of the Lord Forever.
( Ps 23 )
Or consider a reading:
Even though one short step separates us from this thing called death, when it actually occurs, we discover that death is not what we thought. Death is not the destructive force we feared it to be. Instead, we will discover death to have been conquered already by our Lord who experienced it for Himself, and then came back to tell us that we should not fear death because He had made preparations for us. "Let not your heart be troubled."
( John 14:1 )
"But I would not have you be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him."
( 1 Thess. 4:13-15 KJV )
REMEMBER that there is no one way to perform a funeral service. The important aspects are reverence for the moment, continuing the cultural tradition of how we lay to rest our deceased, the call upon God for comfort and peace in this time of sorrow and grief, the reverence of God’s promise of eternal life to those that believe.
The funeral ceremony is for the bereaved more than the deceased. The minister is the professional person entrusted by God to carry forth the rites of the departed into the arms of a loving God.
God, grant us the strength and courage to embrace our Faith so that we may see that all of life is in Your hands. Amen.
Lord, we entrust all our hours to You. In our waking moments and in our sleep, we rest in You. We also entrust our loved ones to You in these moments of ultimate sleep.
Our Father, we need a source of strength and refuge. We need a resting place. For being this kind of help in time of trouble, we offer our thanks. Bless the memory of this dear woman, my mother, and grant us all the peace that comes from trusting in You.
Oh God, I thank You for the light of Your Son and the way that light has shone through the love of mothers.
God, give us the grace to consider the way our lives are being measured. May the life of my mother remind us never to ignore the quality of life at the expense of quantity. We ask our prayer in the name of our Perfect Example.
Our Father, for the promise of eternal life we offer our praise and gratitude. How difficult our lives would be today if we had no hope. But we do have a hope. We are called forth from this moment by the life of our Lord, in whose name we pray.
Hear our prayer, O God, as we lay before You the concerns of our heart. Our hearts feel pain in these moments. Hear our cries, especially those that are deep and silent. You know the sorrow that has befallen us and You are aware of the grief within us. We come to You for healing and strength. Amen.